I've got one major problem that I wanted to share and would appreciate if
I'm given some help.:) It is destroying my relationship with my girlfriend
and has already destroyed my relationship with my former girlfriends as
well.
You see, I'm a very sensitive guy. I take to heart what people say about me,
especially if it's from those people whom are close to my heart. The thing
is that I don't say anything about them but instead try to encourage them,
cheer them up or lift their spirits. I don't criticise them and talk bad
about them. But they somehow have this tendency to criticise me. And if
colleagues or normal friends want to criticise me, it's alright but the
feeling is different if it's someone very close to me.
The other night I was hurt when my girlfriend told me something about me.
She said I was very formal and to me it meant I'm not normal as everyone
else was informal towards each other. I thought I was just being considerate
and trying to be nice. Hence, I just wanted to tell her that I wasn't happy
that she said such a thing. But the thing is that I didn't tell her through
the phone or personally. I chose to SMS her instead after the end of a date.
And she misread my feelings as an outburst. She said I had just destroyed
her good feelings aboiut me and the wonderful night we just had together.
Maybe I didn't communicate properly.
I really didn't mean to hurt her. All that I wanted was to tell her that I
have feelings too and she shouldn't say such things about me. Now she wants
a break and says that she wants to think things through whether she is able
to live with that aspect of my personality. I could tell myself to remember
the famous line, "set her free, if she comes back to you, she's yours, if
not then she's not meant to be" but I'm only lying to myself.
I'm really sad as I've been with her for 1 1/2 years already. I really
really love her very much. We even talked about our plans for engagement and
wedding. Her parents like me and my parents like her. I even thought of
buying a ring with my next pay check. :(
I would be extremely devastated as it's not easy to find someone like her.
:( I really am in a depressed mood right now. It's only been one day but it
seems like a very long time that we have not talked to each other. What
should I do?
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